Aaj hum jis vishay par baat karenge, wo hai gussa, yaani krodh. Ye ek aisi bhavna hai jo hamari zindagi ke har pehlu ko prabhavit karti hai. Gusse ka na toh koi umar se lena-dena hota hai, aur na hi ye gyaan par adhaarit hota hai. Kab, kahaan aur kyun gussa aa jaye, iska koi bhi andaza nahi laga sakta.
Jab gussa aata hai, toh insan apni sochne ki shakti kho deta hai, aur uski buddhi par andhera chha jata hai. Iska asar ye hota hai ki rishte pal bhar mein toot jate hain, aur ek insaan ka poora jeevan bikhar jata hai. Agar aap kisi jail mein jaake dekhen, toh aapko wahan kaafi log milenge jo sirf ek chhoti si gusse ki wajah se saza kaat rahe hote hain. Phir bhi, hum aksar apne gusse ko control karne mein nakam rahte hain.
Hum baar-baar yeh thaan lete hain ki ab hum gussa nahi karenge, lekin fir bhi har baar gussa aa hi jata hai. Ab sawal yeh hai ki gussa hota kya hai? Yeh hum par kaise kabu paa leta hai, aur kyun hum ise control nahi kar paate? Chaliye, ek misaal se samajhte hain.
Ek chhote bachche ko dekhiye, uski kai cheezon ko lekar ichchha hoti hai. Jab usse koi cheez nahi milti ya koi usse daraata hai, toh woh turant pratikriya deta hai. Bachche ki yeh pratikriya hi krodh hai, kyunki bachcha nirmal hota hai, asahay hota hai. Apne astitva ka ahsaas apne aas-paas ke logon ko karwane ke liye, woh gusse ka sahara leta hai.
Jab hum bade ho jaate hain, toh kya hum kuch aisa hi nahi karte? Kya gussa humare andar chhupa ek chhote bachche ka asar nahi hai? Jab humara ahankaar chot khata hai ya hume koi cheez nahi milti, toh humara mann bhi ek bachche ki tarah pratikriya deta hai. Isi wajah se krodh asal mein ek bachkana vyavhaar ka roop hai.
Hum sab jaante hain ki aaine ke saamne khade hoke apna chehra bigaadna bachcho ko shobha deta hai, lekin bade logon ko nahi. Phir bhi, hum gussa karna nahi chhod paate. Tajurbe se hum yeh seekhte hain ki doosron ko dekhkar yeh bata sakte hain ki gusse se kabhi kuch hasil nahi hota. Na samman milta hai, na dhan, na pyaar, na suraksha. Gusse se sirf nuksaan hota hai, aur jo kuch bhi milta hai, woh sirf samajhdaari aur soch-vichar se hi milta hai.
Lekin hum apni aadaton ke gulaam hote hain, aur gussa ek aadat ban jata hai. Chahe hum jitni bhi koshish kar lein, jab bhi hume chhoti si wajah milti hai, humare andar chhupa hua bachcha turant gussa kar leta hai. Aakhir krodh aur kuch nahi, bas humari bachkana soch ka ek roop hai.
Jaise hi hum yeh yaad rakhte hain ki hum bachche nahi hain aur aise vyavhaar hum par suit nahi karte, waise hi gussa khud-ba-khud khatam ho jata hai. Is baare mein vichar zarur kijiye. Kya yeh sach nahi hai?
